So here is Wikipedia's definition of dating:
Dating is a form of courtship, and may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal.
Courtship/Social Activity - Dating should begin as a courtship with social activities. Two people taking the time to get to know one another to determine if the are compatible and suitable for one another. The obvious depending on whom approaced whom is that there is a physical attraction.
With that said that doesn't mean one should quickly act on the physical and jump into a sexual relationship with someone they have courted/socialized with. Why? Because it is important to asess the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. Keep in mind intimate relationship does not mean sex. Sex and intimacy are two different things you can have sex and have NO intimacy. You can have intimacy and not have sex however intimacy is important for a healthy sexual relationship.
If you find yourself sleeping with guys and then dating them halt and do an about face. Why? Because relationships that start off that way rarely end up in a walk down the aisle (if that is your desire). Also because you will confuse enjoying sex with a person for actually liking the person. Why? Because you all didn't date you engaged in sex!
So court him and allow him to court you. Keep in mind his goal may be to court you straight to bed and score a goal. As I think about it it may be your goal to get him in the bed. Just be mindful of what your long-term goal is and stay true to that. So you may have to exercise self-control and restraint.
Dating again means to court and socialize with someone of the opposite sex. So yes, you can date more than 1 person at a time. The purpose of dating again is to determine if you can see yourself in a relationship with the person. If there are no sparks and you don't see a future. Move on to the next one, no harm no foul as all you did was court one another and socialize outside of the bedroom sparing all involved headache and pain.
If you date and you find someone whom you think is suitable for a relationship. That is when you choose to date exclusively and enter into a relationship with them. This still doesn't mean however that its time to go all the way.
So to all my single ladies embrace dating and learn the difference between dating, relationships, and simply engaging in sex with a man. Trust me that your heart will appreciate it later.....
Next week....Confusing friends with benefits with a relationship!
Be a blessing and be blessed,
Epiphany Essentials
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