LOVE

In recent news with the infidelity of Tiger Woods, Swizz Beats, Alysia Keys, Mashonda issue, Dwayne Wade allegedly leaving his wife for Gabriel Union etc.....I could go on and on even Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinski, and recently a government official can't think of his name off the top of my head that admitted to lying and cheating on his wife.

Is infidelity within a marriage deemed as the ultimate betrayal? Is it something that couples should be able to work out and get past?

In my opinion it depends on a lot of factors but in the end the only people who can determine if a relationship or marriage is worth saving is the people involved. The best way to make this determination is not to involve anyone, I repeat ANYONE, in your personal business (less its a marital counselor or spiritual advisor). Friends, family, and strangers will have their opinions on what you should and should not do and what they would and would not do. These opinions can cloud your judgment and reasoning and have you doing, saying, and behaving in manners that you would not normally. From experience it will also have your mind racing, with all types of thoughts. Those thoughts will spill over into your actions whether good or bad and make take you to a place that you don't want to be!

Understand that some people will say things just to cause confusion and discord. Always examine the source of the information you receive. Determine if it is genuine, out of love, is it useful, helpful, inspirational, truthful, is the person giving the advice in a happy place in their life? Be careful of the people you have around you but more importantly those whom you share your innermost secrets with.

I believe that people are afraid of love. They are afraid to show love and be love to become vulnerable and express a dependence for someone else in their life. To truly let go and release and simply love. This fear may come because once you truly love and let go you relinquish some control. Some fear love out of a fear of being hurt.

I was speaking to a friend the other day and I asked her and I will ask you. How do you truly expect someone to love you unconditionally, for someone to never hurt you or disappoint you when you have done and will probably continue to struggle to do those things for yourself? You expect someone to love you 100% completely yet you don't love yourself!

This is not to say to let someone use and abuse you. It is to say that love is a process and a journey of learning and growing together. Your mate isn't perfect and neither are you so a perfect love you will not have but you can have the best, optimal love with each other if you put in the time, commitment, and effort to make it happen.

If you want to be loved start by loving yourself. Once you learn to love yourself half the battle is over. Then learn that love is a beautiful thing and be mindful and careful whom you give your heart to and whom you open up to be it a romantic relationship or simply a friendship/acquaintanceship!

There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Imagine how the world would be if we all just learned to love ourselves and love others and we love ourselves.....

Be a blessing and be blessed,
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