Monday, April 22, 2013

TEMPTATION: CAN YOU SPOT A HARLEY?

If you plan on seeing Tyler Perry's new film 'Temptation' DO NOT READ THIS POST until AFTER seeing the movie!
 
While watching Temptation, the 1st conversation between Harley and Judith had my danger signals blaring, they were saying he's dangerous, don't trust him, he will lay hands on you!  Did yours?  There was one point where Judith asked Harley a question and part of his answer was the fact he could get crazy.  Few people say they get crazy, and those that do say such things usually mean CRAZY for real, real, CRAZY all capital CRAZY CRAY CRAY!!!!!
 
While Judith was obviously intrigued from her and Harley's 1st meeting and conversation, the private jet scene where Harley begins kissing Judith and she is saying stop but he doesn't, while a turn-on for Judith, it COMPLETELY turned me off.  Once again my danger signals began going off.  However, I could totally see a woman like Judith and many other falling for the Harley type.  Especially since her life seems mundane and predictable.  When she tried to spice it up a bit, her husband was taken a back and unprepared to just go with the flow.  This increased her curiosity for something "new and exciting".  At any point in time Judith could have spoken with her husband about her need for some spontaneity and excitement BUT like most people she harbored her feelings and allowed them to lead her to a path of self sabotage and destruction with defeated thoughts.
 
Before I go any further, there are great men out there, I love black men, I am the daughter of, mother to, and woman of a black man.....
 
Harley was 100% positively the too good to be true type.  When I was younger my mom said something that I completely understand now and is so fitting for the movie.  If a man has so many positive attributes and things going on for himself and he is single, no woman is trying to claim him, stalking him etc.  There is something wrong with him.  Harley was a man that possessed everything he could possibly imagine yet he had no love in his life.
 
I couldn't understand why Judith didn't pick up on the warning signs.  Especially since she knew his love profile, topped with the fact she was a marriage counselor yet, her emotions and thoughts that she was missing out on something led her to make bad choices.  She was open, vulnerable, and gullible leaving the door wide open for Harley to come in.  In their conversations about his love life, Harley always took on the victim role and made his ex out to be the "bad guy".  My thought was what woman in her right mind wouldn't want to ride around in Rolls Royce's, live lavishly, fly on private jets etc.  Not putting a price on love BUT something made his wife decide to marry him and something also drove her to leave all of that fabulousness behind.  Not putting 100% responsibility on the husband as it takes 2 to make a thing go right or wrong BUT his over emphasis on his wife being unappreciative was just a bit much.
 
I won't give the whole movie away but I can say when it ended the 1st thing that came to mind was "Don't go chasing waterfalls please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you're used to!" 
 
The grass will always look greener on the other side BUT that lawn has to be maintained like any other one.  Just because its green now doesn't mean it will stay that way.  Relationships take work and should be built on a foundation of love, trust, respect, commitment, friendship, and communication. 
 
How many women would have fallen for Harley, married or single? 
 
Namaste! Peace! Love! Joy! Favor! Abundance! Prosperity!

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