SUPPORT OUR BLACK MEN PART II

As I continue to celebrate men on this month. This morning I thought about what to post today and then a sermon or a message within a sermon my Pastor taught months ago came into my head.

No one, I repeat no one on the face of the earth will ever understand what it means to be a black man except for a black man. As black women we experience a lot of the things that they do but not to the extent and or magnitude of which a black man does e.g. racism, discrimination etc. For example, when certain people see a black woman walking down the street they aren't going to clutch their purse tighter and/or attempt to cross to the other side of the street.

So as the black woman understand that when your man goes out into the World he is getting beat up often in some kind of way and you need to be his biggest cheerleader when he comes home.

If you have a man that is working hard to support his family and is doing the best that he can (or one whom has potential or is currently experiencing unemployment due to this economy), when he comes home at night be his biggest cheerleader (as my Pastor said). Encourage him, uplift him be his help mate, love him, let him have the remote, give him some quiet time or whatever he needs, have dinner ready, heck rub his feet or massage his back whatever it is that well help him relax and unwind.

Whether you want to believe it or not racism and prejudice are still alive and well even though we have a Black/African man as President. I was watching the TV One interview with Louis Farrakhan and he mentioned how police violence against black men has risen since Obama has been in office. There is and has always been a war out for our black men. It is not by accident that our men are in jails/prisons, on the streets killing each other, using and selling drugs to our people etc. There is a Governor that bases his prison population off of 3rd grade African American boys reading scores (fact given by a panel member on a televised broadcast of the State of the Black America, I believe that's was the name of it).

So ladies, if you are raising a black men or in a relationship with a black man, build him up, encourage him, and love him EVERYDAY. Never talk down upon him or belittle him. No matter if he does something that is "stupid" in your opinion. There is a way outside of nagging, moaning and excuse my french bitching to get a black man to understand your point of view.

Most importantly, we have to learn how to let a man be a man. The world is and has already done everything that it can to emasculate the black man. Even convincing black women that they don't need a man they are independent and can do it alone and be the head of the household (which we can if need be but that is not God's design!). Also, we (women)as have late are constantly being beat over the head with the notion that successful black women are unlikely to marry. Since the family (father/mother/children) is the cornerstone of society in the world's view and in God's kingdom we must be ware of what we allow to effect us as black people.

Finally, Bill Winston said today in order for the black family and our people to rise our men, the head, must rise up and get themselves together.

So ladies as mothers and nurturers and helpmates it is our job to support our black men (not financially of course but mentally, spiritually, and emotionally).

Be a blessing and be blessed,
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