Thursday, January 26, 2012


Yesterday, someone I followed was tweeting about people that do what they want to do. She referenced a time when she was a little girl and her cousin had done something wrong. Her aunt was spanking her cousin and at the same time asking the cousin why she did what she did. My follower responded auntie I know why she did it. Her aunt asked why? Her response, “because she wanted to.”

Because I wanted to! I think about my own son, he does things that make me angry at times and I ask why did you do that,? Ironically, often times he tells me because I wanted to or because I didn’t want to. That is the best, most sincere answer one could give. Now I will appreciate him more for being honest.

In the grand scheme of things everything we do is because we wanted to do it, point blank period. Anything said outside of that is a concocted reasoning, explanation for why we did something e.g. and EXCUSE!

Questions & Answers

Why are you dating such and such but you are unhappy?
Usual excuses: Well (s)he looked good, I was lonely, I don’t like sleeping alone, I don’t want to go out to eat, the movies etc. by myself. I love them, it’s hard to walk away. I’m afraid to be alone. I can’t afford to pay my bills by myself
Real Answer: I stay because I want to.

Why don’t you save money?
Usual excuses: I can barely afford my bills now. No one taught me how to save.
When I get money I can’t help but spend it. There’s always something that needs
to be paid or done.
Real Answer: Because I don’t want to.

Why haven’t you come to visit?
Usual excuses: I’ve just been so busy, I haven’t had time. There is so much going
on the weekends are packed full of errands and running around.
Real Answer: Because I don’t want to.

Why don’t you make more healthy eating habit choices?
Usual excuses: Fresh fruits and vegetables are expensive. I don’t have time to
cook. I don’t like cooking. I don’t like many vegetables.
Real Answer: Because I don’t want to.

We ALL I mean EVERYONE 95% of the time does what they want to do when they want to do it. We make time for what we want to make time for. We find money to make purchases that we feel that we need even when they are not a basic necessity. We do what we want and what we don’t want EVERYDAY. It bothers me to hear people say so and so made me do this or that. Or when people say I didn’t have another choice I had to. No, you always have a choice and whatever you choose, you chose it because you wanted to. Whether fear, anxiety, stress, or anything else played a part in your decision it doesn’t matter, in the end you did what you wanted to or what you felt was best for you.

Even going to work, yes that is your job and that is how you get paid but you get up and go because you want to. You could very well stay at home, eventually get fired but you don’t because you don’t want to you also don’t want the after effects that come with that. Nevertheless as I wrote in a post early this week we all exercise our right to CHOOSE.

Please believe when I write this is therapy for me. I am not sitting on my soapbox pointing my finger or looking my nose down. As I know that I do what I want when I want. I had to break myself from a lot of bad habits. I used so many excuses, I’m tired, I just don’t feel like it, I had a hard long day, it feels good/right etc. Really, again WE DO THINGS BECAUSE WE WANT TO OR BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT TO.

What if that was the only reason we gave when asked why did you do this or that? Although it’s the truth it’s a bold statement. People are looking for some reasoning, some drawn out explanation. Not a simple because I wanted to, because I thought that was the best thing to do, because I made the decision and that is what I decided. I did it because I wanted to do it.

Now the goal is to make sure we are doing what we want to do but also what is best for us. For example, last night the little woman on my right shoulder told me I didn’t want to work out, the little woman on my right should told me I did. I went with the little woman on my left shoulder. Why? Because I am training myself to do what I need to do when needed even when I don’t want to do it! Why? It seems so easy to do what we want to do yet so difficult to what it is we truly need to do. My goal is to have a paradigm shift when it comes to wants, needs, and necessities.

All the bad choices/decisions we’ve made, EVERYTHING we have done. We exercised our right to CHOOSE and did it because we either wanted to or didn’t want to after it’s all said and done.

Be a blessing and be blessed,
Epiphany Essentials

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