A good friend of mine tweeted in the wee hours of the morning today that she'd been focusing on the wrong thing. In essence while she should have been thinking, praying, spending time with her father she was worried about a man she was dating and focusing her energies there. See yesterday her father was rushed to the emergency room and at first he didn't want to go.
Many of us know when a crisis happens in our lives that is when we take the time to ponder and reflect. Well she began to ponder and reflect and she said "I'm worried about my dad...today it really is hittin me!!!! I been worried about the wrong man!"
Many of us women worry about how our significant other sees us, if they love/like us, if we are pleasing them, if we measure up (the same is probably true for men and how they feel about women). We spend so much time nurturing and developing a relationship with them so much so that sometimes we focus/spend more time with them than anyone else in our lives sadly often times this includes our children. We are so focused on them sometimes we can't think straight or function.
Imagine if we spent that time focusing on God and pleasing Him how much better our lives and our relationships would be? God wants to be the head of our lives and Jesus should be the center of our joy. When we have those things in balance than everything else in our lives fall in line. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all good things shall be added to you (Matthew 6:33).
Our focus should be as follows
- Others (boyfriends etc.)
Yes I am sorry I put boyfriends way at the bottom. There is no where in the bible where God gives boyfriends or girlfriends priority. I don't think there is a scripture that mentions boy/girlfriends. Seriously, and this order doesn't mean to be selfish and neglect others it means to spend time with God getting to know Him, then spend time getting to know yourself, if you are married God is the head, than the husband, wife, then children. However if we don't know who we are and are not in right relationship with God/Christ we cannot fully be there for others.
So I ask what is your priority and before you answer this question. Think about the last few weeks and who/what you spent most of your time with. Who you spent the most time talking to and fellow shipping with. This includes taking into consideration the media.
Examine yourself and your life. Unless you are married your significant other isn't all that significant, of course that is just my opinion.
Trust this doesn't mean not nurturing and developing a relationship with the opposite sex after all how else will you end up married if that is your desire. What this is saying is make sure your priorities are in order.
I heard a saying don't make someone else a priority when you are only their option!
Be blessed and be a blessing,